Probing Society

It’s a man’s world, isn’t it?


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Why can’t I be heard?
Why do I have to shrink myself?
Why do I have to play second fiddle? Why do I have to be judged based on my gender?

The other day, a “well meaning” aunt called me aside,
She advised that I shouldn’t be “too anything”…
Don’t be too outspoken,
Don’t be too opinionated,
Don’t get too ambitious,
Don’t get too rich,
Just don’t or you’ll scare them away!!

There was this time I tried to confide in you;
I told you about that guy…
The one who tried to take advantage of me.
Remember what you told me?
“I told you that dress shows off your curves. You shouldn’t have worn it to see him!”

Why do you always try to blame me?
Why do you always find a way to point accusing fingers at me?
Even when I’m clearly the victim.

Look at my friend, Ada
I told you I had to visit her at the hospital,
Her husband beat the living daylight out of her,
Do you remember what you said?
“She talks too much. I’m sure she must have pushed the poor guy to the wall this time”

Why do my folks focus too much on me?
My curfew is 7:30pm,
My kid brother isn’t back from the game center yet
Check your clock, it’s 10:30 pm, isn’t it?

Why are the shouts of “hallelujah” always louder when someone testifies of the birth of a “bouncing baby boy”?

Why? Just why?

La Mujer


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Being a woman means being at the receiving end of society(usually negative).
It means getting blamed for virtually everything. “The woman you gave to me made me eat the fruit”.
It means getting blamed for actions against you. Imagine telling someone about a guy that tried to rape you and the first thing the person asks is “what were you wearing?”

Being a woman means being strong-
mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Trust me, you need that strength to be able to give life and nurture it.
Being a woman means the ability to add life to whatever you do.
Being a woman means being strong, yet sensitive.
Being a woman means loving unconditionally.
Being a woman is the best thing you can be.



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Black, white, colored
Latino, Asian, African
European, African-American,
Nigerian, Ghanaian, Brazilian
Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa….
Enough already!!!
Aren’t we all human?

We’re born human
Then doctors stamp our first label on us
Male child, female child
Let the stereotypes begin!!
Pink for girls, blue for boys

Society lurks around
With ready categories
To impress on us.
Tall, short,
Fat, skinny
Athletic, curvy, chubby
Straight, homosexual, lesbian
Rich, poor,
Smart, dull
Feminist, chauvinist, sexist
Blind, lame, dumb
Beautiful, ugly
Sexy, unsexy
Addict, alcoholic
Regular-sized, plus-sized
Crazy, smart, retard
It goes on and on and on

Women stay at home,
Men go to work.
Women love to sing and dance,
Men play sports.
Women don’t watch football,
Football is a man’s game.
Women shouldn’t be too ambitious,
Men ought to be ambitious.
Women are the weaker vessels,
Men are strong.
Chill out!!
This is exhausting.

Enough with the fallacies,
Enough with the generalizations.
We’re more than just male or female
Tall or short
Those things don’t define us
They’re just too inadequate.
Enough with the stereotypes
I just want out of this pigeonhole.

Posted by Ekele Oriahi